3 steps to start transforming your life
I've met many people in my life that seem content in themselves with what the general consensus would call "the normal life". From going to work and dealing with a shit boss, paying that never-ending mortgage and mountain of bills or being in an OK relationship. Many things seem out of reach but we think 'well, that's life and that's how it is'...
And what if I tell you that it doesn't have to be that way? What if we could have the things we dream of?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that it will happen from a day to another. It will be a long and challenging journey but just like any good story, it has to start somewhere... So let's start it here!
I'm going to give you 3 essential & simple steps to start transforming that life of yours.
1 - Press pause & do a checkpoint
First of all, you have to press pause. Take a seat, a deep breath and a piece of paper. It's time to look at your life the way it is.
In order to look at it, we'll use a very simple tool called "The Wheel of Life". There are plenty versions online, personally I've been using this one: https://wheeloflife.noomii.com/
Fast & easy, no need to register and you can print it or keep a pdf copy of it.
Otherwise, you can simply take a piece of paper, draw a circle and break it into 8 parts.
You will look at your life through 8 main elements:
- Fun & Adventure: Leisure, travel...
- Health & Nutrition: Fitness...
- Work, business
- Contribution to society
- Personal & spiritual development
- Family & friends
- Intimate relationship
All areas have a scale from 0 to 10. This represents your level of satisfaction with the designated area.
The point is not to judge or compare your life but to simply acknowledge where you think your life is in all areas and to see that there is potential for improvement. Look at everything that you've done over the last 3 months or so.
Be honest with yourself, let your gut do the work for you...
Once you have scored all areas, fill the inside of the wheel with colour or shade it in, and there is it: your wheel of life!
How does it look like? It would be a bumpy & challenging ride with such a wheel, right?
Well, this wheel represents your life as of today and everything between the wheel and the edge of the circle is your potential and I'm about to show you how to dig in this potential of yours!
2 - Put a set of actions in place
Now that you have established your current situation, it's time to work on all 8 areas and aim to increase each score, even by just a little.
Think about every single one of these areas and write down at least 5 actions that you can do that will make the score of this area higher. What type of things would you need to do in order to make you score yourself a 10?
For example, if my score was 1 for Fun & Adventure then I would write:
- Plan getaway weekend once a month
- Go to a concert/museum once a month
- Go for a hike once a week
- Plan 2 overseas trip per year
- Plan a party for birthday / Christmas / New Years Eve...
By doing some or all these activities, I would then increase my score.
My recommendation for these actions is that you make sure that they are all SMART:
- Specific: what...
- Measurable (i.e: 2 events...)
- Achievable: keep it reasonable, better to do a baby step than none
- Relevant: ensure this action is relevant and matters to you and not someone else
- Time-based: put a deadline on it (i.e: by next month / within a year...)
Take the time to brainstorm all these ideas and visualize yourself doing these actions. All of them should inspire you and give you a feeling of accomplishment. Also, have at least an action per area that scares or challenges you, something that you're afraid of doing but you would feel happy once done.
3 - Implement accountability
Great, now we have a clear vision of where we are and which direction we want to go.
Here comes the hardest part: implementing all these actions in your daily life and staying consistent. Here are a few tips.
Start by placing your wheel of life and your action plan on the wall where it will be the most visible to you. You need to see them as often as possible so it gets you accountable for what you are aiming for.
An organic way to be consistent is to engage yourself by declaring what you want to achieve.
Tell your friends, your partner, your parents, your coach, your teacher...anyone you want but talk about it. So next time they see you, they will ask: Have you organised that overseas trip that you were talking about? How's your diet going? Did you call your mom to try sort things out?....Yes, they will get you accountable for all the things you've promised yourself.
The more you talk about it, the more it will become your reality.
Another effective way is to put all these actions in a calendar. Either as a recurring action or as a one shot, create reminders so you never disconnect from it. With the number of actions that you've written, you should have more than enough to have one inspiring action per day.
I personally use the app called Wunderlist, more details about it here.
Finally, review & update your Wheel of Life on a regular basis. I'd suggest once a month.
By doing this, you stay in tune with your goals, you acknowledge any improvement or regression. There is absolutely nothing wrong if you regress or stagnate. Take this as an opportunity to review your set of actions to generate a different results. If an area hasn't moved, then it means that you weren't inspired enough by your action plan.
Alright, you know what's left to do - ACTION!
Have fun with it and feel free to share your feedback & experience.