Take responsibility for all your actions
When something goes wrong, it seems that it is always easier to blame someone else. Taking responsibility for what is happening seems to be a real challenge but there are a few great benefits to do so. Let's have a look at it.
In life, there are only 2 things that we can control: our thoughts and our actions. Our personal thoughts, or beliefs, give every single one of us a unique vision of the world. They are based on our social and cultural environment, past experiences, education...
Out of these thoughts, we will act and out of these actions, we will produce a certain result. So the path is: Thought - Action - Result.
By following the same logic, if we are not satisfied with a result, we need to change the action and in order to do so, we need to change our thoughts.
Only a person who will take ownership of a result, will be able to change the action and so, review their thoughts. By doing so, the person is taking the opportunity to discover a new vision for himself/herself, taking a new set of actions and creating a new possibility to reach the desired result, or if not, getting closer to it.
This pro-active approach is the way to answer the question: Do you want to be part of the problem or part of the solution?
As much as we all say that we want to be part of the solution, if we don't take responsibility, we're still part of the problem.
Let me give you a couple of examples:
1 - You're in an unhappy relationship, your partner doesn't seem to do what it takes to make it right. As easy as it is to place all of the blame on your partner for all the things that he/she does or doesn't, pause for a second and picture what could happen if you take some of the responsibility. In this case, you can take responsibility for not having drawn the line of what is acceptable or not; you can take responsibility for accepting and remaining in such a relationship; you can take responsibility for not doing anything about it.
Once you're able to accept that you are responsible for that and that you are not happy with the result, you can then change your vision and so your action and so the result to get into a healthier relationship that you deserve.
2 - You are getting terminated from your employment or you are getting denied a promotion. For whatever reason it is, if you take responsibility, you can ask what is it that you could have done differently to avoid such results. There might a pattern here that might be acknowledged and so by realizing it, you might be able to get rid of the obstacle previously in the way, with this company or another. Take it as an opportunity to grow.
Taking responsibility allows you to defuse the blame and anger that you might have towards someone else. Without beating yourself up for it, you have the power to change it by using this experience as a lesson for the future: next time you are in a similar situation, you will be able to recognize it quickly and take a set of actions to reach the desired result.
One last thing, sometimes a new set of actions won't be enough and will still keep you away from the desired results. If that's the case, don't give up and keep trying. Every failure is a step closer to success, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as you learn a lesson out of it. As you might understand by now, taking responsibility is the key to your evolution.